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Still the same. I have to admit I seem to have a serious problem, I first became aware of it when I was 18 years. I never wanted to get overweight and became obsessed with my body image and still to this day I am uncomfortable with my body. My problem??? Lately when I look at myself in the mirror or catch a reflection of myself, I can only see a fat version of myself. It's absolutely weird! I know what the scales show, I hear my hubby say, " Seriously I don't get it, you are not fat!" I know he's right but why do my eyes see me fat?! I reckon the devil is playing with my eyes!! I keep telling that Liar to get lost because I'm slim not fat!
Today I needed to get a pair of secondhand bike jeans as the current ones I purchased last year are so big that even cinching it tight about my waist with a belt to keep them up still look ridiculously huge on me. This morning, a female friend sold me her size 10 bike jeans that fitted me!! I looked at her, this slim woman and I thought surely I'm kidding myself, why am I here her jeans won't fit me!? But they did and still were loose! I use to wear mens XXL jeans, its so nice now to wear womens sizes and a size 10!! I never thought it would happen. 🙆♀️🏍👖🎉🥇
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Body dysmorphia is real. I think the longer you have been overweight, the longer it takes to see your new image and accept the change. My daughter has been the one helping me by bringing me clothes 6 sizes smaller than I would have ever tried on by myself... Keep listening to your husband and those close to you, hopefully in time your brain will retrain to your new reality 🙏
12 Jan 23 by member: lizpackard09
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I know what you mean! I've had enough people in the past tell me that I'm chubby, plump....even my mum told me at a school aths day that she heard a herd of elephants coming, but it was me 😔 Anyway, even when I got to 50kg I still thought I was fat and ugly. My larger friends would find that insulting, but I just thought everyone looked better than me, no matter their size! I now trust what others tell me and know I'm not fat and ugly, but it doesn't stop me thinking it deep down. I have a lot of negativity from my past buried deep down, so off to the psychologist this year!
12 Jan 23 by member: spicehorn
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PS, even in size 6 jeans I still find and focus on fat bits. The brain is a complex thing!
12 Jan 23 by member: spicehorn
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Ladies your comments ring true to me! It's amazing how words from parents should be wholesome and uplifting not a flaming arrow penetrated deep in our hearts to make us stumble and fall. Spicehorn your words triggered a memory which I realised was the root causing my negative body image and lack of confidence (thankyou for that revelation🥰) My mum & stepfather's words about me were hurtful and downright cruel. I will pluck out that weed and embrace the new me and focus on my adoring hubby's loving words Xxx
12 Jan 23 by member: TreesLaugh
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Spicehorn this is the mind playing tricks on us. If I was using coaching techniques I would probably suggest having a daily saying/mantra around self love and having compassion for yourself. We spend time observing how others see us when we are overweight and then start self loathing and we beat ourselves up more than the judgement you experience. So you need to rewire your brain with statements of love that you will start to believe.
12 Jan 23 by member: malgaynor
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I am the opposite! I was thin until menopause so mentally I am a thin person. Every time I looedin the mirror I was surprised how big I actually was. It was also hard finding clothes that fitted me because I was still looking at clothes for thin people. Bizarre
13 Jan 23 by member: mials11
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I was never chubby or overweight as a child or teen or even after I had 4 children. In fact I was athletic and very fit. And finally I'm looking good again. Woohoo
13 Jan 23 by member: TreesLaugh
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If this is a regular occurrence you could try a bit of weight training to tone up and build some muscle(if you aren’t already). You’ll gain a lot of self confidence when you get your flex on :)
15 Jan 23 by member: damnitvanity
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Daminitvanity- yup I think you are right, I best get back to my arm weights and leg exercises.
15 Jan 23 by member: TreesLaugh
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